Anyone else afraid....?

We just had a son 3 weeks ago. Not going to lie, still a little disappointed about it. I love him...But when I pictured having a 2nd child, I kinda pictured reliving our first child, who is a 4 year old girl. So everything I pictured, involved another girl. So. It's not that I didn't want a boy, I just really wanted another girl...So it's taking some adjusting to not having what I imagined, but having something different.Anyways...is anyone else afraid of raising one of those boys that memes are about? The ones who hurt people, cheat, abuse, abandon? I know women can do those things as well, but it's so stereotyped that that's just who men are...and I'm so afraid of that being my son.And you can go on and talk about how it's all about how they were raised or whatever...But it's not. Honestly, I'm probably a little biased...my father was never a huge part of my life. We had supervised visits, every other Saturday for my entire childhood. Until he got in a fight with his brother(whose house my visits were at) and he said he would never go back there again,..Which, essentially ended my visits. No call, no letter...just nothing. I was 13. He never made an effort again, ever. And until then, I loved him. He was amazing. We hung out, played games, watched movies. I loved my visits. And then he was just gone... His parents, were great. My grandmother was the kindest, sweetest most generous person I've ever met. And she raised him...and if he, could just, disappear like that, having been raised by such a wonderful woman...then that means that it doesn't matter how incredible we are as parents, my son could still turn out to be an awful person. And It breaks my heart. And I'm so afraid of it. I know there's nothing I can do, and hes literally only 3 weeks old....But the thought terrifies me.Is anyone else afraid of who their children may grow up to be? Why am I obsessing so much about something that is sooo far away. And thigs that may never happen. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2WWpsv0