Helicopter mom - how do you let go?

I posted this in another group and it brought up a good point about letting go of control.TLDR; getting a divorce with a two year old and I’m nervous she’ll get injured or hurt when she’s not at my house.Since my daughter was born two years ago in ICU, I’ve always felt incredibly protective over her and making sure she’s going to have the best life possible (she has some medical issues and has always been a little kid). Now, my husband and I are going through a divorce and it brings up some fears that I am having a hard time dealing with. He’s not ever been as attentive nor worried about her, and tends to be busy with other things. She’s fallen in the pool when she was with him (she’s two, can’t swim) and hits her head, knocked a tooth out with him, etc. All of these things ultimately added to our stress and disagreements with parenting but as I mentioned this in another thread someone said well, you sound controlling. I can say, I am aware of some control issues (stemming from trauma and sexual assault) but I want to also work on that and trust in my STBX and his support system and let go a little. I want to believe he’ll take care of her just as I do. Anyone else been there before? I just need help letting go of the unknowns. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2Xq8pjT