Hi. This is my first post, but I think its important and I'd like some advice. Title says it, but yeah.Key: Niece (5F) R Niece (2F) A Sister (28F) S Brother in Law (29M) BIL Sister's new boyfriend (27?M) SNBSo I'm (19F) moving 3 hours and transferring universities to help make sure my nieces (2F) and (5F) are completely safe and on track with everything. My sister (28F) is divorcing her husband (29M) after 10 years. He left due to her cheating consistently for their entire relationship. Ive supported my sister through just about everything, and she feels closest to me. She confides in me, but also has shown that she is capable of manipulating me.My nice, (5F), that we will call R, hasn't been to preschool or anything like that. My sister had been a SAHM for years and hadn't made the arrangements or efforts past what works for her. My mother and I have been buying schooling books for the past 2 years. R has just used them as coloring books because there hasn't been any learning sessions with them.I recently gave my BIL, some learning books to help the girls. He recently moved into his moms house for the time being while dealing with the divorce. My sister has been emotionally and physically abusive with him. He was as well for a while, but has worked on himself and has stopped drinking. (In the past he was the only one who paid for the house and still pays most of the mortgage.) They have set up a "homework station" to get the girls started, but they only see the girls on the weekends.I'm currently moving to the town my sister lives in and and living in the apartment Sisters new boyfriend (SNB) lived in. (It was cheaper than anything else my roommate and I could find. And he moved in almost immediately after BIL moved out. It was absolutely disgusting.)I'm taking another semester off of university (other reasons for that) and am focusing on getting my life together and helping the girls. My sister has a tendency to react in a volatile way and sometimes get angry at the girls for no reason. I'm hoping to help the girls and maybe get some stress away from her.She also moved SNB into her and BIL's house almost immediately after BIL moved out. She will consistently leave the girls alone with SNB and his old roommate (who has also moved in) for her to work. I've pointed out that this isn't safe and that she should know better that this (she was serially abused by one of her cousins as a young child). Her excuse is that she has known SNB for 5 years (he worked at a gas station near her for years and then she started working there). Not to mention that I don't even know how long she has known SNB's old roommate.I'm mostly trying to help her raise these girls not to be in the same situation as we were when we were growing up with a mother that was just as bad. But I don't want to overstep my boundaries or get her to snap at me. She has threatened to keep the girls away from our family and from me in the past, had "cut" us from their lives, and had been generally volatile to everyone. She isn't a bad mom, but not exactly a great one either. I realize that they aren't my kids, but I've been there since the beginning. And they're my family. I also want to reiterate that I have supported her through a lot, while not always supporting her decisions.Thank you via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2DfIxkQ
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