A little background...I moved country to live with my partner and my now 9-month-old baby girl. I can talk a little bit of the local language, but not enough to have ‘proper’ conversations. I’m not in contact with my parents for good reasons that I won’t go in to. She has the most kindest, caring family and they all get along really well (mum, dad, brother and sister). Her parents treat me as one of their own.I work full time (Mon - Fri). After 3 months maternity leave, my partner now works on Monday and Tuesday. Her mum takes care of our baby on Mondays and Tuesdays (and any other time we need some support).Ever since the first time her mum has looked after our daughter, my partner has been upset by various things ranging from ‘what clothes the MIL dresses baby in’ to ‘giving our baby water’. Honestly the list is endless the amount of things that my partner gets really upset about...to name some more:She didn’t like that her mum was taking our baby to see her friends during the day.Taking our baby to another country (we live in mainland Europe right on the border of the neighbouring country).Letting our baby’s feet touch grass for the first time without my partner being there.giving our baby vegetables to try without checking with my partner.giving our baby fennel tea without checking. (Our baby drank this for the first months to help with digestion).upset when the MIL dresses her in clothes that she bought rather than the ones packed in a bag by my partner.Honestly, there are lots more that I could mention. It’s almost everyday that my partner is in tears because of how upset/frustrated she feels. And yet in my eyes I think my MIL does an amazing job, couldn’t love our baby any more and really helps us out.When my partner talks to me about these things I try to listen to her and make her feel like she has been understood, but there’s a part of me that feels bad for my MIL who is constantly being told not to do this or that. I know that if it was my mum she would eventually say she wouldn’t look after our baby anymore if she was doing such a bad job, but I know it wouldn’t come to this with the MIL. But I just feel bad for her.There are some things that I see where I would prefer things to be different, but really no harm is being caused and she is just a granny who loves her first and only grandchild and wants to show her off to her friends, dress her in clothes that she bought and helps to develop our baby with feeding etc.I’m stuck between the two and it’s really awkward. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3fYOgu5
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