My nephew that I care for pretty frequently just does not listen to me and I'm just at what to do, we have to keep telling him things over and over and over constantly... he does things even as we just instructed him not to because hes jumping on the couch or playing with tools or knives or scissors or something hes not supposed to be touching and he KNOWS not to do, but he still does it anyway.I try my hardest to explain things nicely and explain why he shouldn't do something. He just doesnt listen and then he goes and hurts himself doing the thing I just told him not to do and I just let him learn and forget aboutBut there is one thing that I cant let him do and that is hurt or terrorize innocent creatures.I have two cats that I love very very dearly, one was a kitten and one is a full grown male cat who is really sturdy and well socialized.Ever since I got the kitten about a year ago while he he was still a toddler, he has constantly CONSTANTLY terrorized the cat by doing things he shouldnt... and I know it's wrong but it got to the point where I would just lose my cool and have yelled at him because that little cat is an innocent little thing and needed to be socialized right, I was socializing the cat to learn to be okay with being handled and it seems like it was ruined by the way my nephew treated it (I've caught him kicking my cat, chasing it with a stick, shooting at it with nerf guns, just constant shit that upsets me and blows my cool,I've tried explaining to him1st the cat will scratch him and to stop messing with the cat... hes been scratched MULTIPLE times in the face and has cried yet he still doesnt learn and I dont say anything I just hope he doesnt do it but he still does2cnd I've explained to him that if he likes the cat and wants the cat to like him he cant be doing all this stuff like treating it like a toy and that it's a real thing with it's own feelings because if he keeps it up that cat will never like him...3rd I've tried to make him realize that bullying that cat is not cool, he doesnt like being picked up by me, so the last time I caught him fucking with my cat I picked him up and threw him over my shoulder and didnt let him down, to try and get him to understand that it is not okay to mess with people or anything at all... he still does not understand.I'm at a complete loss at what to do at this point and I feel like I have to teach him this because I will never be happy if he grows up to be an animal abuser, and his parents arent any help, they dont care.I've tried getting him to bond with the cat by having him brush the kitten and the older cat and it feels amazing when I'm watching over him while hes with the animals and hes actually treating the cat well... but then that all unravels when like an hour later I catch him chasing it around the house trying to whip the cat with like a shoelace or something he found, sometimes I feel like maybe he has a disorder like ADHD or something. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3iziYxy
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