Why do people feel the need to try to convince me to have more kids???

If you ask someone if they’re having anymore kids, gives you valid reasons why (although no should be enough) don’t then take that as an invite to try to convince them otherwise! A kid isn’t a make of a phone or a new dress or something that I need you to try and convince me I need another one.I say things like I love this kid more than anything and I’m not sure I have enough to give to another kid. ‘Oh but you will though’ yeah but what if I don’t? What then? ‘Oh you will, I did’. As a kid of three I can safely say in my exp that love doesn’t always share equally.I’ll say I can afford to give her a really good life, she will want for nothing, if she wants to further her education etc I’ll be able to help her. With more than one it would be harder. ‘Oh you’ll find away, you’ll just have to cut down on your own treats’ but why should I? For an extra kid that doesn’t exist yet? Or better yet ‘you shouldn’t give a kid everything they need, they’ll be spoilt’‘You must have had a really difficult pregnancy to put you off?’ Nope. ‘Difficult birth’ nope I had a textbook, easy in comparison to my friends births. ‘Oh you’ll be fine for the next one then’. No. No I won’t because I have no plans for another one.‘She’ll be lonely’ with lots of friends her age, nursery friends and her huge family on both sides of parents? No she won’t. But what is lonely is feeling like your parents choose to make effort for your other siblings rather than you. ‘Oh it won’t be like that’. Sure hun.I’d be too busy, I work full time and spend the remainder of it with her. Why would I want to give myself more work? ‘Children are a joy and you would make time’And finally my absolute personal fave.. ‘what if she dies? Then what? You’ll have no children left’. I’m not royalty, I don’t need an heir and a spare and I can assure you if god forbid something happened to my kid I wouldn’t be long for this earth. ‘Yeah but if you had another one you’d have something to live for’So word of advice if you ask someone if they want more kids and they say no, accept the no and move on with your life. Because no one needs a ‘helpful’ push to have more kids when they clearly don’t want them and let’s face it, it doesn’t affect your life at all whether they have another or not. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3cuSU2x