I have 2 girls, 3 and 5. They are awesome but they are not easy. There was, for a while, a lot of conflict and I'm doing my best to move away from that.Why conflict?5yo is very emotional, big meltdowns, will violently lash out. Probably adhd and possibly tourettes. Trying to see a specialist. 3yo is me at her age. Strong willed, defiant, stubborn, and contrary. I'd describe her as almost having ODD, and as an educator I know what that means. Obviously this has a flip side and she will be a formidable woman one day, and I don't want to break her like I was broken down as a strong willed kid. We have a 5month old baby, and lately their dads work has been stressful so that has impacted them.The things I was trying weren't working, so I changed tack. Drawing strong lines only created big tantrums and fights. Lately I have been doing everything I can to get through without conflict and spend more intentional time with them to solidify our bond and improve their state of mind. I play games, have competitions with them (I always lose but they love beating me to eat my tea or get dressed), play music to get something happening, bet they "can't do something before x happens" and try to pre prep them as well as I can for the behaviour I expect. I've been doing a million puzzles and reading books, and when I can, playing outside with them. There have been improvements. But it is still hard, and hubby and I still occasionally lose it at them.Anyone who is in the same position, do you have any tips, tricks, podcast episodes to listen to while I clean the house, or wise advice? My kids may not be neurotypical, but they have a great future ahead if I can get this parenting gig right.Thanks! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3k51wAD
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