I am a 43 year old male with a wife of 38 and 3 year old daughter. My sister (50) visits us from another state about twice a year, usually for a few days at a time. The first few visits were nice. She brought books and toys, snuggled with our girl, watched TV with us, and did things that made her a part of the family.But the last time everything changed. Despite my sister being married, she made a profile on Tinder, and was meeting all kinds of different men. She became so attached to one, that she wanted to bring him to visit us. I researched the guy, and it turns out he had 5 different DUI offenses as well as a domestic violence incident on his record. My sister isn't concerned about this at all, and says "Oh, he has a drinking problem he's working on!". Still, we stated he would never be allowed into our home around our 3 year old.Also, during this last visit, she was on her phone nearly 100% of the time texting different men. She was mostly communicating with the alcoholic. When we suggested she play with our girl (since that was what she was really there for) she threw a tantrum, like we were dumping our child on her. Another time, our girl hurt her foot and my sister was the only adult around. My sister didn't move from the chair at all, and continued using her phone like nothing was happening. Our 3 year old noticed her new behavior. She noticed being shewed away and seemed hurt when her Auntie didn't play with her. She once had a love for my sister, but now she doesn't talk about her and doesn't care when we tell her that Auntie might visit again.My sister also left a huge pill on the table next to her where our daughter could've grabbed it. The last night my sister was with us, she spent the last 4 hours locked in a room talking with a guy she met on Tinder and ignored us. Again, this is a 50 year old woman acting this way! The next morning, she didn't even wait for us to wake up and say "bye". No note or anything. Just left!Shortly after this visit, my sister's husband passed away. She didn't seem to be mourning the death at all. I'm not sure why she stayed with him to begin with. She always said he was abusive and lazy. Shortly after the death, the alcoholic moved in with her. She later discovered he was drinking in her home and booted him out. But she still keeps in touch with him and doesn't tell us much about him.The entire thing feels icky! My wife has decided she doesn't want my sister around our child anymore. I confronted my sister about all of this. She went into a tirade which didn't help her case much.I just can't believe this seemingly perfect sister of mine who was so loving has changed to a point where we have to question if we want her around anymore. Should we at least give her another chance? Is it just too icky to even take a chance? Looking for some "What would you do?" answers. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/30FRagd
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