Some background: My SIL is 8 years old (17 years younger than her brother, my husband). She has rarely had stability in her life, and does not have positive role models regularly around. Her mother is pretty irresponsible and doesn’t really take time to parent on a deeper level. My husband and I live far away but when we see them, a lot of things come up that make me worry about her development. They are trying to move closer and if that happens, we will be spending a lot more one on one time with my SIL.My concern is that my SIL has a YouTube channel that is not monitored by her mom. She is mimicking what she sees other Youtubers do, talking to her followers and taking them about her daily activities. She posts Tik-Tok dances and when she has friends over they sing songs or play games together and film it. While a lot for the content is seemingly harmless, I am concerned that she beginning to share too much of her life.Some of the videos are her doing gymnastics in her bedroom and they have over 600 views a piece. This is where a red flag popped up for me. As I began watching more videos (there are about 40), some other alarming/sad things came up. In one video she recites her full name and street name. In another she is being fed questions from some type of live stream and while they start of rather silly and simple- she claims the “juicier ones” are at the end. The video cuts off before we get to whatever that was about. She does tours of her room- opening her drawers & showing her bed. She does Tik Tok dances to songs with extremely sexual lyrics. Again, she’s 8.Maybe some of these things seem mild, but she’s so young to even have this type of access to the internet IMO. I’ll be honest I was nervous to watch these videos because I was afraid I’d see or hear something much more heartbreaking. However I still feel a conversation really needs to be had with my SIL about internet safety, respect and privacy for our bodies and belongings, etc. I know her mom will not have this conversation and would brush it off if I or my husband brought it up. I am worried that she has already received messages from predators because it just seems so easy.I’m not super experienced talking with kids her age & and we are also not very close (we live far away & my husband and I have 2 small children of our own). I’m just not sure how to navigate this convo.What would you say to your daughter if you found she was posting like this online? I definitely don’t want her to feel blame or disappointment coming from me. At the same time though, they are coming to visit soon and I know she will be trying to video my daughters and talk about them to her “followers”. This is an absolute no-go for my husband and I so it has to come up somehow, preferably before that happens.TL;DR My 8yo SIL has been posting questionable content on YouTube and while it’s nothing extreme from what I can see, it is full of red flags. Her mom will not have a conversation about this with her, so I feel it’s on me. How can I start this conversation in a none accusatory way? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2ZVFmY8
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