Normal Preteen Moodiness?

Hi /r/parenting. I'm trying to get a gauge on what other parents are going through or have experienced with their preteens.My son is 11.5 and his cussing, attitude, and bad behavior are getting worse. I bear the brunt of it - he's never been this disrespectful towards other adults or teachers.He has ADHD and he's unmedicated at the moment which was in agreement between me, my son, and his teacher. We've tried medication before and these mood swings resemble the terrifying ones he'd go through on Adderall and Ritalin when he was 6 or 7. Screaming, crying, cussing tantrums lasting an hour or two around 5 pm. He seemed he was better after getting off the medication as far as stopping the tantrums, but he's always had an issue with managing his anger.His rules have recently been more restrictive these past months. He is expected to clean his room, clean up after himself. As a family we eat out once a week if he follows the rules. His screentime was cut back from pretty much full access to 3-4 hours a day. This past week I told him no more Roblox - especially Football Fusion - because he gets too frustrated. Hitting his fist on the desk, copying the bullying and foul language in the chats, and being too obsessed with it. I explained why I'm banning Roblox (I also mentioned the safety aspect in regards to potential pedophiles and scammers on the site).Lately he's been saying he hates me, wishes he lived with his grandparents, says the f-word and goddamn and jesus christ which he knows isn't allowed. When I explain we need to try to do some exercises when he starts feeling angry, he refuses. He says he won't see his therapist anymore and makes faces at me before stepping outside to cool off.Does this sound normal? I do worry about his angry outbursts when he gets frustrated, but I am trying to work on it alongside his therapist. An ex-boyfriend of mine says he's worried my son will become a juvenile delinquent and was concerned to the point where he recently broke up with me and said my son has too many problems. He has no children and comes from a strict upbringing fyi. I guess has been bouncing ideas to his mom about the way I handle my son unbeknownst to me. She's a special ed. aide and I don't know if she fed these ideas to him at all or if I am blind to what he's telling me.So far, no teacher, coach, other parent, or his pediatrician have mentioned grave concerns about my son the way my ex did. I'm trying to figure out if my son's preteen moodswings and outbursts are normal or not. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2WGt2Jg