I am hoping I am not going to get crushed in downvotes for asking this.. I love my kids... but I am basically ready for them to be all gone and move on to the next chapter of life where I don't have to deal with the costs, constant needs, etc. My girls are 18+, but I didn't raise them with iron fists.. I tried to be somewhat cool and talk to them..but like most teenagers today, they are entitled millennials who think they know everything and despite helping with cars, school, etc.. they act like it's owed to them and asking for help.. basically is like pulling teeth.I realize that this is partly our fault as parents for not being stricter I guess.. mostly follow through on punishments or what not. But now, everything turns in to a damn fight with them, and frankly, as someone with medical issues that could lead to stroke/heart attack.. I am trying to avoid any confrontation as much as possible. This angers my SO who thinks I should be more active in punishment and not let them get away with talking/acting/doing things. But it results in my BP going up, and chest hurts.. and yah I know go to ER if chest hurts.. it's not quite like that.. its more panic attack level but the next step beyond that is serous. So.. for me.. knowing they are basically just about out of the house (got 1 that has a couple years left).. I basically don't want to fight/argue, and just want them on their way in to the real world. Yet.. I know how hard it is.. so I am torn.. with disrespect, costs, etc.. do I kick their asses out soon as I can (e.g. out of HS if they dont go to college)? If they were respectful and just did the few things we ask.. for what we do in return like pay for phones, insurance, all the water they waste taking long ass showers, etc.. I think it's not much to ask. But not sure wth would happen to them if we somehow figure out how to kick them out on their own. Hopefully they would get a job while still going to school part time or something.. but then I feel like all our talk over 15+ years of getting degree and moving on was wasted because now we would essentially force them in to a position of having to work full time and figure out how to get a place of their own with roomates, etc. We live in a LCoL so they could likely work a full time job and afford a place with a roomate.Just really frustrated with the daily arguments, disresepct and though I know it was partially our fault in how we raised them, I just don't have the patience or desire any more to put up with it and risk my own life, when it's really not that hard to be respectful and help out with things. I could get my SO to beat the crap out of them I guess.. but that seems pointless.. and if anything long term damaging.Anyway.. just wondering how many others out there are feeling like this with kids today.. or if I am a rare person. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3cudHUO
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