Hey everyone I'm a 22m father to a 2-1/2 year old boy. The reason for the title is because I work 7 days a week at a factory from 6am to 4pm. My sons mom (ex) watches him through the day and my mom and the both of us have granted her power of attorney so my son could have a stable environment due to the falling out with ex. We moves closer to my mom a year and a half ago, and gave my mom power of attorney about 6 months ago because I planned on returning to college in August to finish my degree so i can stop working 7 days a week and spend more time at home.I feel like I've failed because my apartment doesn't feel like a home and everytime my son is over it feels like hes throwing tantrums the entire time or just not having fun, I try to interact with him by playing with him, reading to him and watching his shows with him but he doesn't seem interested. Im told through the day while I am at work that hes been good and hasn't thrown any fits and he takes his nap on time and when he goes to my moms after dinner he goes to hed on time and is the golden child and says dad through out the day.However when I am home, the atmosphere seems gloomy or melancholy and he it seems he goes from being this sweet little boy to the spawn of Satan. He bangs his head, throws his toys and breaks things but when I step outside (I have a history of anger and have learned to know when its time for my to leave the room or step away) he is perfectly calm. I've been told he probably acts like this because he can feel my emotions or sense it, but I'm calm and a little stressed but not enough that I notice at least. But it feels like he's happy when im not there and gets agitated when I am.Now my apartment doesn't have the best memories honestly when we move I will forget about it and leave this place in the trash bin in my head because I can't think of one good memory here even on the holidays. The reason I say this is because we could be anywhere and i mean anywhere away from this apartment and he is the sweet kid with me but it's when we are back inside the apartment. I don't know if he just senses the negativity that's been built and left inside here before and during my stay ( previous tenants argued a lot and fought a lot according to my landlord and neighbors and the guy upstairs is a dick) that's why I plan on moving back to my old place because he seemed calmer and honestly we were all happier; the reason we moved here was because I found out my ex was cheating on me while I was working 2 jobs and doing school.So could he be acting out due to the history of the apartment, feeling the stress and tension, or is it just me and am I failing somehow and if I am, how do I fix it? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3tjMCKb
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