Need opinions

I have been with my boyfriend/fiance for almost 5 years. Our relationship started out really fun and we were crazy about each other. I had thought that this would be my forever person. We had a lot of shared core values and I valued what a hard worker he was. We found out we were pregnant in May 2019. Fast forward through moving in together -a nightmare (me being pregnant really made me want to be around my mom/ family even though we were 15 minutes away, pregnancy hormones gone awry). Also he became officially diagnosed with ADD and started taking medication. Us having the baby and during my maternity leave he was not working. He was in school online which I ended up doing a whole class for him (not cool). I went back to work and I would come home to either A) no baby ( he would drop her off at his mom or my mom's house and say he was doing errands) or b) a baby with a messy apartment and no sign of dinner. (He still wasnt working at this point). Then we moved again to a different apartment and the pandemic hit. He started his own lawn service in the summer which was great. But that translated to him dropping out of school and not balancing his time so he spent little time with myself or the baby. I said since you make your own schedule you have the baby one day (any day it could be raining, a half day) while I work from home (didnt happen, still does not happen unless I make an effort to ask him what day he will help me with the baby). Which brings us to now where he has no active job. Over the course of the past 2 months he has told me he is dissastified with his life, the baby gives him anxiety, and oh yeah when are we getting married because he just wants to be married (he has no benefits, I do from my job). I told him we cannot get married with the state our relationship is in. I have a hard time understanding his frustrations because he plays video games whenever with his friend and has no job breathing down his neck, he very rarely is the one soley watching our baby so what would make him be stressed? I appreciate that he usually does keep our place clean and I try to encourage him to get a job. The other day he made a comment about being a house slave because I had ask him to change the baby and make us lunch while I was trying to work? (Did not appreciate that) We havent had sex in about 2 months (and I wouldnt exactly count the last 2 attempts so it's more like 5 months) I tried to ask him to do counseling, I am not the best at expressing my feelings and I was in therapy to work on that for about 5 months. Lately I have reverted back to my moms house to have a place to escape too (which I know does not help). I do love him but I never know which verison I'm going to get. Is it me? Please let me know if you need more details or what I should do/if you have been in a similar rut in a relationship.Please feel free to ask any questions via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3pyD37P