Parenting question on how to steer strong negative behavior back to positive.5yo boy, really strong emotions. Doesn't matter what type of emotion it is, the reaction to those emotions are to physically/verbally lash out, whether it's hitting, being destructive, calling people names.Yelling is not the way to go to get his attention, it only escalates and then of course, physical punishment (a spank) will not work either, as that would only escalate as well.It's gone as far today, as him hitting his grandma with an object, and he's bullying his little brothers (2.5yo boys), and dumped out a whole glass of milk. I don't know the circumstances that led to these behaviors but I feel like he is trying in some way to get our attention and / or display how he's feeling, but I can't seem to get to the root of the issue to help. Like - What made him get so upset that he would lash out. Is it merely because he was spoiled rotten when he was born and an only child, center of attention and now - he has to share w/ his bros? or are we doing something wrong..??I try to be a good example in showing how to express your feelings, setting him aside to take a break from the situation, but it doesn't seem to work. Trying to explain to him - "If so and so did this to you, how would you feel" or "would you want your brothers to do this to you" type of thing.My goal is to:not shame him - I don't want him to feel shamed or that he is a bad boy; in my heart of hearts, I know he isn't. He feels really really big and doesn't know how to handle it.come to him with a love and teaching mindset, not parenting with fear. I mean, to some extent I want him to know not to mess with me as the mom, but - I want him to know, no matter what I love him - I want to teach him the right way for him.How can I help my boy, any positive, constructive and helpful advice is welcome. Thank you! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3u7mr9g
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