A (not so) quick rant! Advice needed!!!!!I gave birth to a beautiful & tiny Babygirl in December. She stayed in a the NICU for two days due to sepsis & low birth weight.Only a handful of people have met my daughter and I’m very strict with mask wearing, hand washing, sanitizing etc because my baby was born a premie.My husbands sister has always treated me like crap because their mom and I had a big argument over me using the washing machine when her other son aka GC needed to use it soon as he saw me loading up my laundry.Hubby’s sister had covid around October and continued to party the minute she realized the 14 day quarantine was up. Didn’t bother to retest herself btw.I didn’t allow my husband nor his mom to announce the birth of my baby especially to his sister because his siblings were only being nice to me once they found out I was pregnant. I never got a congrats, no one spoke to me unless my husband asked me to clarify anything... y’all know the deal with JUSTNO’s.Once we announced on the book of faces that I am home with my baby, hubby’s sister immediately called their mom crying that she was butthurt no one told her about my baby’s birth. She’s VERY obsessed w my baby and has subconsciously admitted that she would like to keep her most of the time as her do over baby.She has been begging my hubby to let her carry the baby despite admitting in my face that she goes to department stores EVERY day during her lunch because she gets bored and she works at a local phone store.A few weeks after she admitted about going out all the time, she invited us to my MIL house for dinner and I (stupidly) agreed as long as she kept her distance. As soon as we got there, she immediately got up and started greeting my husband and then proceeded to say she was washing her hands so she can grab the baby. I nicely told her that there was no way I’m hell she was getting the PRIVILEGE to hold her and she asked my husband to bring her car seat in so we can put her in there. (why? I have no clue) After I told her the car seat will stay in the car and there was no need to put my daughter in it if I was inside holding her, she lost the happy sparkle of hope in her eye and immediately started pouting and washed her hands anyways to avoid awkwardly walking back to the kitchen. She started touching my baby’s foot and getting WAY to close to us which made me super uncomfortable so I stopped back and walked away.Fast forward to my daughters 4 month physical at the doctors.My husband texted his brother (the GC) that he wasn’t prepared to see our baby cry when she receives her vaccines. His brother just responded along the lines of that sucks and asked for pictures.He then proceeded to ask my husband if he can see her when he surprises their mom on Mother’s Day.... without talking to me about it he told him YES. He then asked if we were gonna let him carry her which my hubby said “sure as long as U wear a mask” this INFURIATED ME because he also made my life a living hell when I lived with them in their parents house and this man also got covid around New Years and kept pestering my husband to let him see and carry the baby.... on New Years. I guess I can give him the “benefit of the doubt” that he “didn’t know” because he told my hubby that he had covid after he traveled back to the state he is currently living in.I’m so upset that the same people who took their time to make sure I always felt isolated on holidays or family events all of a sudden want to be a big part of my life JUST because I had their brothers kid. Am I wrong for keeping a grudge? They never apologized, and never will because “they have too much pride” according to my husband. They still don’t talk to me or acknowledge me unless they want to know personal details about me and the baby like “does she breastfeed, how many times does the baby poop” etcI don’t want my husbands brother near my baby or me and my husband knew I would be in a vulnerable state of mind the day of my baby’s vaccines so that was the perfect time to tell me he already gave his brother the go ahead to meet and carry my baby.How can I talk to him in a mature way that won’t lead to bickering that I simply DON’T want my child to have a relationship with people who hurt me emotionally and psychologically for 3 years straight. Any and all advice is wanted.If u read this far... thank u! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3vuVH30
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