*Preface: Well, moderators seemed to find my first post to not be fitting as they thought we were seeking med advice. He just had his 6 mo checkup days ago & his recent check was all fine, but he was all smiles in front of his doc of course. As far as I can tell, he's meeting basic milestones too, making eye contact and smiling and can be a really sweet boy, but some things worry us and we just wanted to seek other parents who went through similar situations and wondered what their outcome was, or get parenting advice / ancedotes / reassurance / etc. Not med advice.Our first child, now our 2 yo daughter, had some bouts of colic & was inconsolable early on at times but became a really fun, dynamic girl full of personality, curiosity, cuteness, and was/is very engaging. She let anyone pick her up in the family, was playful, etc.My wife had a rough pregnancy with our son, now 6 mo old. I'll leave out the details as the mods or bots seemed to mistake me explaining her pregnancy as seeking "medical advice" but it was just context. Our child was born 5lb 6 ounces, which was technically 2 ounces below "normal weight" , but frankly seemed more like 1lb below normal weight to me. Regardless, he drank milk like a fiend and fought to get to 18 lbs now at 6mo which is fine. Visually, he's a handsome little boy-- with symmetrical features and a very sweet smile and cute behavior when he laughs. No visual signs that he has anything wrong.Anyhow--- after the first few days, he was a constant screaming baby. However, it was apparent early on he had digestive issues as he had a lot of gas and a hard tummy, so we figured his system just needed to develop - we managed him best we could with probiotics / gripe water / bicycling legs / tummy massages, etc. It was a rough 4 months or so, but he kept up his milk drinking and worked up to a healthy weight, and he's met his basic milestones... There may have been a short time, or maybe it was my imagination, where he gave us days of where he seemed to be getting better; and to this day he does always wake up happy and playful, chirping and making funny noises, bending his toes to his mouth, trying to roll over and wiggle around. When he's getting lots of attention he usually can be in an ok mood, but it doesn't take much to set him off into ear piercing inconsolable screaming tantrums on a daily basis. The smallest things can trigger bouts of inconsolable screaming, sometimes it feels like he's having a breakdown. Not many days are "easy days", some are easier than others, but he needs to be held or carried and interacted with A LOT to prevent this, and even that isn't a guarantee. New people or situations set him off, and while he can smile and be happy, he can often hold a face of worry/anxiety/fear -- and at 6 months we just don't know what it means... IF he screams at night and won't sleep, I give him a light show with this hippo toy that plays music and lights (a godsend for us) and it changes his mood quickly. We're starting to get really worried that something is wrong mentally and this is a sign of something.Anyone have a really difficult baby like this? How did things turn out as they became toddlers and beyond? Thank you for any ancedotes, advice, or guidance you provide. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3vEPxgP
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