HELP: Being the example for Behavior correcting

GENUINE DISCUSSION// Note: I am not trying to argue. Respectfully If you’re attempting to pick a fight this is the wrong post for it. Thank you. I’m trying to gather more perspectives on this and genuinely understand the parents point of view and whether I have a say in this boundary OR if this boundary is a grey area.———I was recently used as an example with some young kids (who are not mine) regarding embarrassment. Bare with me.To note I am not the parent but they are apart of my family.The kids were squabbling like kids do. It was an unnecessary “give me this!” “Hey not that way!” Fight. I am someone who is very loved by my family and I love very dearly in return. I want to be a safe space for those that I love. Especially for children learning how to operate in the world.With that being said, the parent (also my family) utilized the following sentence “you should be embarrassed that (me) is here and watching you argue.”I immediately said I didn’t care and it was fine. (Squabbling while annoying is inevitable with children)The two kids immediately shut down.I feel very uncomfortable being used as a humiliation tactic to correct behavior. I was thinking about bringing it up because it really bothered me. I never want to be someone they are embarrassed in front of even during the ugly.However, I struggle with this because I am very careful and respectful of telling anyone how to parent. I know my place. Now while telling anyone how to parent isn’t my intention, I genuinely don’t want to be used as an example.What are you thoughts from a parents point of view? Is this a grey area boundary to tread carefully but bring up? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3vAyoEV