Hey all!I’ve been a step-mum for 5 years, and I have been ‘equal parenting’ during this time (as in my partner and I are a parenting team, I don’t leave it to him because she’s “his daughter”). So I’ve had my fair share of parenting experience.However... I’ve also had my share of struggles when it comes to my step-daughters behaviours/ attitudes that are super deeply engrained.I’m now pregnant with my first, and so so excited to start on this journey... But I’m really hoping I might be able to use what I’ve learnt from my SD to try and do things differently with my own.The main challenge is that SD cannot play with toys. My SO has said that SD’s mum found baby dolls “gross” and whenever SD was given them, her mum would throw them away... So perhaps that’s an easy one to try and avoid (if that’s the cause)? She’s 8 now and doesn’t understand Barbies, dolls, race cars etc. She can’t use her imagination and it breaks my heart.She also can’t play or be on her own. Ever. She needs to have an adult engaging with her at all times, or she will get sulky and bored, and acts like a beaten child (I swear we are awesome fun parents, but can’t keep that up 100% of the time). She is like a little shadow, and can’t stand to not be in a room with an adult.I’ve been working on trying to support her through this for years, but the older she gets the more she rejects toys and the more she wants adult stimulation.So, a) any advice for SD would be appreciated! And b) anything you’ve learnt about raising a little one from birth as a super imaginative independent kiddo would be hugely appreciated! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3aXHqnm
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