Her dad and I split up when she was 1.5 years old. I was a stay at home mom during that time and we had a great bond. Of course, she was young and doesn’t remember that or her dad and me ever being together. We ended up splitting 50/50 custody and June last year he got arrested. He has been in jail and I have full custody. She goes to her grandmother’s on her dad’s side one night a week - a decision I made to keep her relationship with them strong, since she was very close with them.Lately, she has been telling me she doesn’t like me and I’m not her mom...or I’m a bad mom. I don’t get to spend a whole lot of time with her, because I work full time. I do make weekends the best with her and do lots of fun stuff. She gets mad at me when I have to go to work, but I always explain to her that I would love to stay home with her but I have to make money for us.The other day, I picked her up from her grandma’s house and she was mad because I told her she could have water instead of juice. I try to keep things as sugar free as I can and she knows this and is fine at home. So she had a melt down in front of them and said she didn’t want to go with me. In hindsight, I probably should have just let her have the dang juice. When I got her in the car, she kept saying she didn’t want to go home and she wanted to stay there - also in front of them. It broke my heart. I’m the only one that disciplines her. She gets ANYTHING she wants and can do anything she wants the one night a week that she stays there. That’s not how it is at home, because I refuse to raise a spoiled child. I try to choose my battles, but I do not give in to her anymore. She’s VERY loved at home, but definitely does not get her own way any time she wants.Today when we were out having a fun day, she told me from the backseat that she didn’t want me anymore and she wanted her dad. I told her that I understand and it’s okay to miss Daddy, but not to be mean to Mommy. She replied that I’m a bad mom and she doesn’t like me anymore. She also likes to tell me that I’m not always right and argues with me if I tell her something she said isn’t correct. She’ll say “well (insert family member on dad’s side here) said this, so she’s right not you.” And I just say okay.I work very hard to support her financially and do my absolute best to be the best mom I can be. I know she is only four, but it breaks my heart that she seems to think so low of me. I don’t know what I did wrong or what I’m doing wrong? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3b04Atk
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