Parents of two or more: How do you manage to keep up the heat in your relationship?

Married for almost ten years, our daughters are 4 and 6 and visit the kindergarten.A while after our second was born I came into something like a second spring regarding my love for my wife. I've got a crush on her like in the beginning of our relationship. She tells me that she loves me as well and we agree that the whole pandemic and staying-at-home improved our relationship by magnitudes - in fact, it's the best it's ever been. But the physical part of our marriage lags behind. Our days are dominated by the children. Until noon, we either work, take care of the house or work out (individually) while also cooking lunch, the kids come home at 12:30. The afternoon belongs entirely to the kids and we hardly have any time for ourselves. In the evening around 7:30 pm, after the kids have gone to bed (and have come out of their rooms some 2-3 more times with flimsy excuses), we finally have some time. But at that point, my wife is usually too exhausted to be in the mood for anything. This doesn't leave much time for romantic thoughts. Her parents live just a stone toss away, her mother takes care of the kids after kindergarten when both of us have to work. Since this happens every other day, we don't want to give them the kids on weekends also, to not overburden them. We did so only twice so far this year. It's not like we don't have sex, once a week at minimum, but I always get the feeling that she'd rather do something else. And I also don't get much else physical attention from her. I hug and kiss her frequently, but it's always me initiating everything. I don't even know what it feels like to be hugged by someone else anymore. I've brought it up a few times and she assures me that her mind is just too preoccupied with the kids and the work around the house and that it will get better, but I've been waiting for a bit too long now...Long text, I'm sorry. It helps to write this down. We can't be there only ones who struggle with this. Any advice would be very welcome. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3viIDwR