I’m having a kid next month and expect dna tests to show that it’s mine. My ex believes that the kid should be with her and only her, though I’ve made it clear I want to have a relationship with my kid and be a dad and have 50/50 visitation/custody. We aren’t together anymore but she wants me to go to her house as much as I want after the birth to be around the kid. I do want to be around the kid as much as possible and want to build a connection until my lawyer can work out a visitation and custody deal where the kid can stay at my house. But I don’t want to go to her parents house (who I have never met) to be around her and her parents and her sisters (also with newborns). I know they will judge me and everything I do (the way I hold the kid, change diapers, talk to it, etc) will be wrong in their eyes.I also feel like those first months are vital because I don’t want to miss out on being around my first born and I want to start to build a connection and show I want to be there for the kid.Should I put up with her and her family and go to her house often to see our newborn during those first couple of months (before paternity and custody/visitation js determined)? Or is that too weird of a situation and should I wait until a deal is worked out?Curious on how vital those first months are. I know it’s kinda a pretty specific problem but thought there may be advice out there. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3z8d7UI
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