We love being parents to our two year old son. But no one prepared me for how much harder it is to decide to have another child. My husband is turning 43 this year and I’m 29 so I’m in my prime to have another child and he’s happy to just be one and done. He loves being a dad and is happy to have another if it’s what I truly want.But he’s very vocal about the risks of number two, my health and the babies, how it will alter our lives as far as our careers and finances, how it is unpredictable of the impact it will have on our lives. He likes to play it safe. And with his age, he’s not over the moon about a newborn at 44. Can’t say I blame him. I wouldn’t want to be 50 with a 6 year old either.I see and agree with all the one and done pros, I don’t think my son will be a loser if he doesn’t have siblings. But there is a feeling of my son missing out on something.However, if everyone is healthy, do you think that giving my son a sibling is in some ways better than not?I see bigger families and think that my son would enjoy having another youthful presence around to grow up with. I love being a mom so another kid sounds great, but I also see the luxury and simplicity of being one and done.The problem is… I literally can’t decide. I feel like I’m giving up an idealized version of my life either way.How did you decide? Am I missing something(Also I know strangers on the internet can’t make this decision but I’m desperate for perspective) via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3ieLpin
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