My 14 month old won’t sleep and my wife and I are at our wits end.

To start off I understand that sleep issues and sleep training are controversial topics to begin with as everyone feels that they have their right solution to the problem. We also realized we should have done this earlier in his life but here we are.The issue goes as this… my wife has always nursed my son and she has always woken him up to feed him as part of the night routine even if he was asleep. Even leading up to his one year old party sleeping has not gotten much better than waking at least twice a night which apparently my wife was OK with since she enjoys the night feeds (that typically included a false start wake up before midnight).We had talked about possibly sleep training but she has been engrained to think it’s akin to child torture and wouldn’t on moral grounds. We just had a major move last month and sleeping has not gotten any better in fact it’s worse. He wakes 3-4 times a night and is harder to put back when he does wake.I know he needs to sleep through the night, for his release of growth hormone and development and for our sanity because my wife has not slept more than 3-4 consecutive hours in over a year. I can really see the deterioration in her even though she will just chalk it up to this is what mostly everyone does.I feel that this deprivation is causing severe stress to our marriage and mental health as well. I know parenting is difficult but add in sleep deprivation.I need advice on how to solve this problem to the best of both our wishes and as quickly as problem.As of right now I’ve gotten her to agree to one thing, which is I’m starting to wait 5 minutes before getting him since we have never done anything like this yet. We are on Day 3 with intentions to increase the wait time but waiting and listening to him scream puts my wife in a frenzy. As of now we are holding him back to sleep and when I do it’s taking at least 20 -40min to put him back down.I’m not sure if this is the right way or if there’s anything else I can do. My wife said she will stop night feeding but she still is feeding him if he wakes up after 4 which I am against and she says she just needs more time to relinquish that.I’m just at my wits end here…TL;DR my child won’t sleep and my marriage/sanity is cracking via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3D0hrIi