Parenting clash

My husband has an unhealthy relationship with his family. He has this guilt that he needs to go there as often as possible. It’s an hour drive from where we live and we see them once a week though I try and push for once every two weeks. Our toddler and I are going to Canada for a couple months and I assumed we would have a little time to spend the 3 of us as a family before but all he worries about is his parents having quality time with our son. They have seen him 3 times this week and we are planning to spend the entire day on Friday there. YET…. We decided Wednesday would be a day he took off work and we did something fun the 3 of us…. But at 2 when we had a full day being up at 5 am (my son is 2.6 and lately been getting up at 5) and then left the house at 9 drive an hour to a movie and huge mall and then back home at 2. He expected at 2 when we were leaving that we should go to his parents house. I am pregnant and tired and our son needed a nap. I said no. THEN we go home and my son napped in the car and more at home and when he woke up at 4 ish my husband said how he was going to his parents. I said whatever… so much for family day. Then he starts pushing to take our son also. By now it’s almost 5 and of course I said no. He wants to take my son who is not even 3 for an hour drive in traffic just to go to his parents for an hour or two and return him at 830 (an hour after he normally goes to sleep) and for what?? We saw them the day before and will again in two days! And so I said no because it was almost time for him to eat dinner and I didn’t think it was fair to make him sit in a car for two hours in traffic for nothing!!! He lost his shit and punched a hole in the door in front of my son … and basically told me I was alienating his family from him and all this bull shit. He has been punishing me since by uninviting me to the zoo on Sunday with his parents and our son…. Slept on the couch… just ignoring me all together. Again…. I’m pregnant and a week ago found out our new baby could have a disorder and so we’re currently waiting for the results back to know what is going on with this unborn child…. As if I’m not under enough stress as it is….. am I wrong for not allowing him to go? My husband continues involving my son in things also by saying he won’t see him a long time and when my son mentioned mommy and daddy and him he stops and says no that won’t be for long. also when I told him our entire relationship I’m trying to JUST make us a family and all you do it try and give your parents our son! You care more about them than us as a family. We never spend time just us because the times he’s not working is all about them. He told me that we aren’t a family….my husband….in response to me saying all I want is him to want to spent time with us! Also if we are together in the hour after work before dinner he’s always got his parents on video chat. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3yER3Bu