Take Snotty Teen or No?

My recently turned adult teen threw the world’s biggest fit over being asked to help wash 5 dishes. I cleaned the rest of the house, including the chores she ditched out on before a get together I had yesterday.We are supposed to be leaving to the Bahamas tomorrow on a family trip, but since I asked her to do some dishes and she got an attitude about it. I’m at the end of my rope with her about her attitude and laziness and got pissed off and let her know that very clearly, unfortunately.Her response is that she hates me, hopes I die, and that it’s my fault she wants to kill herself. This is her go-to manipulation when she knows she’s wrong. Last time, she wished I’d kill myself because I’m not a “normal” parent because I told her that her room smells like weed and she better get rid of it.So… I’m debating whether or not to take her on this paid vacation. It was supposed to be a fun family adventure, but every time I do anything nice for her, she turns into this fiery toddler. I don’t want to be stuck on an island with her for a week, but I also don’t want to leave her at home and while I take my other child who she deems “my favorite” (because he’s 12 and doesn’t get into nearly as much trouble because he shows respect and responsibility around here).What the hell do I do?(Note- she is NOT suicidal or depressed. She refuses to get counseling. No she’s not on any other drugs or drinking.) via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3gpgjV9