We Need Help

Boy, you guys have a lot of flairs. I picked behavior because that was most applicable. But let me get started.My husband and I met a couple years after the mother of his daughters left and we became an instant family. I became pregnant pretty quick and we're still going strong. But our son as become a real source of tension in our family and we need help.My son has always been strong. As a baby he rolled over for the first time at two months old. I put him on his tummy on the floor for some tummy time and made a bottle. I came back to a baby staring at the ceiling, gooing. I was floored. At 8 months he was running with his grandpa on the farm, though grasping his hand for dear life, and he had begun talking to me. Small words. Binky. More. Hi. But they were there. I was so in awe of his progress.He was always rough with the family dog. It was a tiny rescued dacshound-chihuahaua mix who was touch shy from being shot and left in a ditch. This s where his name came from, since my son's great grandpa found him and rehabilitated him. I would get down on the ground with my son and Ditch and try to teach him gentle touches and he would only do grabs and pinches, over and over. No no. Gentle. Grab. Pinch. No no. Grab. NO. Let's do something else.I got pregnant when he was 3 months old, so he has a sister who was born a month after he turned one. And he started to hit more.Hit hit hit his sister. Hit me. Hit the dog. Hit everything. Break everything. We tried talking. We tried redirection. Taking away priveleges. We tried timeouts. We tried therapy. Play therapy. Individual. Parent-child therapy. 4 years have passed and nothing has changed at home. It's become worse. His sisters are terrified and bruised. Recently, really tired, we tried spanking. It didn't work either.He's 5 now and we have a diagnosis of ADHD and he is taking quillachew 20mg. His teacher tells me that he begins acting up after lunch. I spent an hour at the school on Wednesday helping the principal hold him down while he raged and threatened and made sure everyone available knew he was distressed. I know he is miserable and it makes me inconsolable. But I don't know how to help him. I stroke his hair and ask him why he's so angry when he's in a rage but it's like he doesn't hear me. I am scared of my son. We need help. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3szoDGL