My 16 year old is dating. My oldest is a senior but didn't date in high school so this is all very new to us. My 16 year old son's girlfriend hasn't been over since our state shutdown but they have been FaceTiming and texting everyday and eventually she'll be allowed back over here. They have weirdly gotten even closer through being separated so I am little unsure of how to handle everything.When she used to come over her parents made it clear that they did not want her in my son's bedroom. My son shares a room with his younger brother so he wasn't super intent on spending time with his girlfriend in there anyway. Instead they would spend time in the family room, in the basement, which is somewhat private but people walk in and out all the time, or in our yard. They don't really spend time at her house because they say her parents make sure they stay within eye sight at all times but now my son is asking for more privacy at the house. He is fine with the bedroom being off limits because he doesn't want to violate her parents trust but he has asked if they could have the backyard to themselves for an hour or so when she's over here. I told him that's fine with me as long as his siblings agree and he said he'll work on that.Now I am wondering if I violated the parenting code. Her parents know we don't supervise as closely as they do and I feel like allowing them in the backyard, where I can see them if I look out my bedroom, dining room, or kitchen windows, is reasonable at their ages. I think they just want a place to go when they want to be alone for a while. How the hell does everyone else manage this? My son is extremely open with me and I don't want to jeopardize that. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2zcENia
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