AITAH For getting mad at husband?

The short of it: my husband works away from home 4-5 days at a time. This creates many missed birthdays and special events. Generally not a problem because we normally just celebrate when he’s home. August has our anniversary and sons birthday back to back. He was gone for this years. We did sons “soft” bday today with plans to have a “solid”(?) party next week. He had promised a friend that he would help cut hay on his only 4 days off. So i scheduled the party on not that day. And as of today, he says the day I scheduled the party, he plans on being gone in the AM to help cut more hay. He see’s it as no big deal because he will be home by noon and “still be there” but im hurt and got upset that he wont be there the whole day. He was already gone for his real day and our anniversary. I guess I was just hoping he would be on the same page. I know its only half the day, but I was looking forward to breakfast together, toons as a family and not being alone. Plus he will be gone the whole day before cutting hay. Am I the ass hole? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/31yN361