Divorced dad 7 years now. Three kids, 17M, 15F, 13F.My kids feel that as a parent I don’t have the right to tell them no. It seems like a no brainer to me that I have the right to say no (with reason, of course), and I’m looking for validation OR an understanding as to why others feel that parents can’t say no. Examples:13-yo daughter had a pair of jeans that came from the store ripped. It’s in fashion, I totally get it, and I’m pretty sure I even bought them for her. When she was getting ready I noticed that the jeans had been ripped WAY down the leg and I told her she couldn’t wear them. The reason I gave was that they were trashed, not the amount of knee exposed or anything of that nature. They just looked like they belonged in the garbage at that point. First and only time I’ve ever said anything about one of my kids’ outfits. She says that I’m being controlling and that I don’t have the right to tell her what she can and can’t do.15-yo daughter was possibly exposed to covid via her brother who was in close contact with someone who has it. Both kids are asymptomatic, but the nurse from my healthcare provider recommended that I have the kids tested. Both kids refuse to get a test because my ex thinks they don’t need it. The kids and ex have told me that I’m being controlling and if the kids don’t want to take the test they don’t have to.I realize I was brought up with extremely overprotective parents, so I have a tendency to be overprotective as well, but these examples don’t seem unreasonable to me whatsoever.Bring me the reality check. Thanks. Wishing you all well. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2XuL55A
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