How to get kids to bed without stress?

Hi! I babysit kids and the hardest part has always been bedtime. Right now one of the girls I’m babysitting, the oldest of three, has a strong attachment to her iPad. Almost an addiction it feels like. I’ve tried to make bedtime as similar as possible to what their mom had described to me, as well as trying to make it relaxing and positive but it always ends up in a battle. “I don’t want the lights off”, “you’re not taking my iPad away”, “I want my mom back”. I absolutely understand the component of her missing her mom but it’s hard to take the iPad away or draw the line on her because it soon escalates to screaming and crying while the other two kids are sleeping. I am concerned about a few things including the oldest girls feelings, not waking the other kids up after she starts to cry, and lastly her perception of me. It’s silly to worry about what she thinks of me but I want her to trust me as a babysitter and her to feel safe. I don’t want to sever the safety bond at bedtime, if that makes sense.I really enjoy babysitting them, wholeheartedly but I always flunk at bedtime. As parents are there things that help your kids go down to bed easier? Are there specifics I should talk to her mom about? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2Y2Ilg0