Anyone living with their kids’ other parent but not in a relationship with them?

My husband and I are really struggling lately. Therapy has been on the table but mostly just for myself. He doesn’t think it’ll fix anything for him/us.Financially, we are absolutely strapped to the max. I feel stupidly trapped; it happened gradually with, I dunno, old student loans (some never dealt with properly that have come back to bite us in the ass), two expensive vehicles, mortgage on a newly constructed home (reasonable enough but we had to take out a 2nd mortgage to pay for outstanding bills at the end of the building process-super stressful.)We both have good jobs but you’d never think it looking at our bank accounts after the bills get paid.Things are looking bleak and we’ve somewhat agreed to “take a break”, but fully aware that this doesn’t mean one of us will be moving out any time soon.Sure, his parents live next door but we’ve already crashed there a few times too many and they’re helping out a great deal already with childcare. My own folks will be moving to the area in late spring but I think I might be worse off living with them - not to mention be a burden to them because we can’t afford to even buy groceries for two separate households. I know they’d support me if they had to, but I’d be bringing along two young kids with me. And I know it wouldn’t be all sunshine and roses no matter how supportive they might be; we are so different in many ways.Emotionally it is a rollercoaster ride to live in this house together in this way, and be so up and down. We’re still sleeping in the same bed but there is a possibility of one of us “moving” to the attic. There’s a mattress there..I think we MIGHT be able to live civilly with one another with time, but then when things are good (which they always seem to become after wounds are healed), I want to get closer to him and he to me. And so I don’t think we could remain broken up for long. But then the cycle begins again.Has anyone found a way to make it work? Or is it worth moving out and finding another space no matter the cost?I’m finding it so very complicated and hard. Looking for support. On the hard days I wish I could just not be here anymore. To not exist would seem better than to lead this life. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3pBzNbG