When growing up, I could somehow never make a lot of friends. I used to hang out with a few kids but they also sometimes singled me out to make fun of me. I was not necessarily what kids call “weird” but I was the class clown in my all girls school and I had a different outlook to things when compared with my conservative town. Needless to say the memories of being made fun of and not able to make friends have stayed with me.Anyway, I now have an almost 5 year old son. He is a very funny kid, loves to talk, super energetic and very friendly. Due to the pandemic, it was tough to meet new people but now that everyone is vaccinated in my area, we are finally starting to socialize a little bit. We met a sweet girl in the park - her mom and I started talking and hit it off. She invited us over for coffee and we started setting up play dates. After 3 or 4 play dates, they stopped talking to us suddenly. I tried to set up play dates but they started coming up with lame excuses.There is another neighborhood boy who was playing with his friend today. My son asked if he can play with them. I went over to the kid and asked if my son can join and he replied “no, I don’t want to play with him.” My poor son’s face fell and my heart broke.Now I’m starting to over analyze and think that whatever quality I had as a kid which made them single me out is in my son as well. I now start to panic whenever my son meets or talks to someone new at the park or somewhere else. How are they reacting to him? I closely watch their expressions and also see how my son is behaving.My husband thinks I’m being ridiculous and that my son is too young to worry about things like this. I dunno - I somehow start thinking how sad/lonely I used to be and feel a physical ache thinking my son is also going to feel that way.Sorry for the long rant. I just wanted to vent somewhere. Anyone else worry about things like this? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3nGqp6s
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