I'm having a really hard time sacrificing career for kids

I guess, mentally reconciling it. I'm 37m, married to 34f and have 2 kids - toddler daughter, infant son.I was career oriented pretty much from college graduation until we had our first child when I was 34. When my friends took easy classes, I took hard ones. I took 1.5X the number of required courses to graduate. While my wife was studying abroad, I was working 60 hours/week. I managed to get debt free by 26 working crazy overtime and being really good at my job. A huge part of my identity was that I was very good at my job in a very challenging industry. I was often the first one in and always the last one out, all while just being better than anyone else.I work for a large company and I was making those fancy corporate titles super young. I became an "executive" at 33. The pay was great. The hours were really rough.I got screwed out of a promotion in 2018, right before we had our first child. I was shocked not to get the new job, my team was shocked, my coworkers were shocked, the woman who got the job was shocked. But it happened, so I tried to move on. I reinvented myself, took a new position in 2019 that has more work/life balance, and this year I'm back to being a top performer at work. But I'm looking at old colleagues getting promoted and it is killing me. I'm seeing people I outperformed for years get promoted above me. I imagine any field is like this. To compete at the highest level, you just can't have a family. Or you have to have more energy than I do.I made the decision that I would prioritize dad over worker but for the past week I've just been a depressed, resentful mess. We now have 2 kids and to stay ahead of the curve, I work from 9-5:30, parent from 5:30-8:30, then work an extra 1-2 hours a night. And I still didn't get bumped up (and I won't next year either) because I'm perpetually exhausted, barely holding it together because my 2.5 year old daughter still wakes up 2x a night, my wife convinced me to get a dog I have to wake up early to walk, and I'm constantly feeling pressured to do more parenting work.This post is just a vent. This sucks. I made a choice to focus on 2 things instead of 1 and I'm salty about it. Wahh, wahh, wahh. I've already given up on hobbies, but I was thinking I could still manage a career and a family life. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3t7pfSA