Being made to raise my stepdaughter who hates me

I am at my wits end. I am a mom of a two-year-old, 10-month-old, and I have a nine-year-old stepdaughter. I have no help. My husband works 12 hours five days a week and when he is home he takes a complete backseat when it comes to parenting and the house. I am in charge of all the cooking, cleaning, and child rearing. I could count the amount of times he’s changed a diaper on my hand. His nine-year-old is grieving the death of her biological mom and all she does is scream. It has gotten so bad our neighbors have come over to ask if everything is ok. Before anyone asks I have put her in counseling. She was not close with her biological mom by any means and was abandoned by her at a young age. Probably also contributes to the anger and defiance. I understand that I sound like a monster, but I am burnt out. I am done. My mother in law claims my husband and I took her away from her by trying to form our own family unit. At this point I just want to say take her. I have spent two years treating her like my own child, comforting her, homeschooling her, reading to her, playing with her, making meals, etc. All to just be held hostage in my own household. I have very little feelings at affection toward her at this point. She has called me horrible over and over, says that she hates me. Others and myself have the expectation that I would feel the same way about her that I do about my biological children but I just don’t. Those are my honest feelings. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3vbLs2U