My wife and I have a 18 month old daughter, and every time my wife's brother is with her he makes me feel very uncomfortable. I should note I've always found this guy weird, eg before my wife was pregnant he kept trying to grab her and pick her up, he does the same kind of thing with his mom. And he comes across as a bit narcissistic, constantly making things about himself. I will note the guy does have quite a few friends and is very social, doesn't fit the usual profile of an abuser. He's in his mid 30s and been single for the last 5 years or so.When he's with my daughter, he's constantly grabbing for her, even if she's clearly not up for it, giving her kisses over and over, licking her on the cheek, tickling and trying to give her shoulder massages. Once he was left alone with her, and I found him with her on the sofa, rubbing her legs, he stopped when I came in. He casually mentioned he wants him and my daughter to have a secret handshake (wanting secrets between them screams huge red flag)What's more he seems obsessed with her, apparently watching videos of her on repeat when he's alone (he openly admits this), trying to spend all his time with her at get togethers and barely acknowledging the other adults. My mom noticed this as well, though she didn't think he was being creepy. It's just bizarre (in my opinion) a man of his age being so obsessed with a little girl.A lot of people say trust your gut, and my gut is screaming don't leave him alone with my daughter. I know women who've been abused by family members, it practically destroyed them and as such I'm attuned to some of the ways abusers groom kids and their parents. I've not mentioned this to my wife, obviously what I'm implying here is deadly serious and not something to bring up lightly. What do you think reddit, am I overreacting? What steps should I take if there's truth to my suspicions? Thanks via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3BoGXGo
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