So, it's been a rough year. My 2 kids are 15 and 12. During the pandemic we moved across county. We've tried to be extra flexible with screen time and bed times because with no in-school this year screens are their social life. Screens are their connections back to their old and only friends. That said, we've had a few instances of lying about their phone or computer use, abusing allowed times and my 15 year old (bless his big dumb brain) is very good about getting around any type of lock on his devices.Last week we caught him in a lie about being on his phone past midnight, talking on Discord. It's not that I really care he was on late, its that he lied about it. He maned up eventually and admitted he was. Grounded for a few days and some 'hard labor' chores. Today, while still grounded, he did it again and brought his sister into the lie as well.I really don't want to extend the cut-off from their only social abilities. We've always had good open conversations. We've discussed the importance of balancing screen time/family time/activities. They're honestly wonderful kids but the lying is kind of heart breaking. I get it, teens lie as part of their discovery and maturing.All that said... I'm looking for a better 'punishment' than taking devices away for long periods of time. Does anyone have any books you'd suggest I could have them read (not as punishment but as an educational tool about lying or screen time)? How about some other creative ways you guys have dealt with your teens in similar situations? Any help would be appreciated. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3Bd3OF6
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