I could write a lot but I will try and keep this brief.I'm 33, my son is 10.I haven't been with his mother for 10 years. I have fought for limited visitation for 10 years and it has drained my energy as a person.I have recently been through the court process to get fortnightly overnight visits.I am trying to set boundaries with him, around things like phone use, while getting him used to a more relaxed home body type environment, than the excitement that's always provided at home. But I also want him to be happy and enjoy himself.The things he wants to do on a daily basis are all expensive, and I would consider them treats on occasion rather than daily things (going to arcades, fast food, trampoline parks etc).Things I would have enjoyed doing as a kid he's just not interested in. Not interested in a magic show, not interested in skating (which historically he has liked), doesn't want to go to the pools (as the hydra slides are shut).So my options to keep him happy and entertained are very low. Then because he feels unhappy he wants to be in touch with his mother, so he calls her and she is not supportive of the visits, and reinforces negative views of me.I'm at a loss of what to do. He's not happy with me, the things he wants to do I won't give to him, and then other stuff he's just not interested in.I feel like I'm dealing with a spoilt child who doesn't have an open mind to doing things, and just wants to be on his phone and can't wait to get back home everytime he's with me.What should I be doing?I'm not a naturally super fun exciting person to be around.I'm at such a loss. He's always so grumpy and angry at me. Do I bend over backwards to keep him happy no matter what precedents that sets? Or do I accept he's going to be miserable and unhappy for a time until he gets used to the environment that I provide?Thank team via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/36KhSYx
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