Struggling to let go of my sense of self to adapt to the roll of a father.

My partner and I have a 3 year old and a 10 month old - both boys.We live rurally in a beautiful but pretty isolated setting (35min drive to the nearest shops/preschool/etc). I work from home and she's full time with the boys.My partner's incredible, born-to-be-a-mum sort of person and a qualified and passionate early childhood teacher. She's taking raising kids in her stride.I'm finding out that I'm not really cut out for it. There's plenty of beautiful moments, but on the whole it's way harder than I expected. I think the thing I'm struggling with most is changing who I am/letting go of my sense of self to adapt to the roll of a father. Along with my introversion.I had so many aspirations of doing my PhD, going on more adventures, making more furniture, peacefulness, and self growth. I thought I could do it all as well as have kids, but I've found that all that stuff is having to take a back seat in order to meet the needs of parenthood.I guess it's selfishness, isn't it.Not sure what I'm hoping to achieve by making this post, I guess it's just a bit of a vent and a desperate attempt to hear from someone that things get better, but from what I understand it just gets different - not necessarily better. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3sCil9a