A little back story; I had my daughter very young (15), my parents basically raised her until she was 2 while I went to school and worked. I’ve always lived in the home with my daughter. 10 years ago I met my husband, my daughter was 6 almost 7 at the time. I noticed a lot of changes in her when she turned about 9, and I figured it was puberty hormones. One day I got a call from her school saying my daughter had spoke about wanting to harm herself to a friend and the friend told the teacher. Since then we’ve been in therapy constantly. The first diagnosis was depression, she did group therapy, 1-on-1 therapy, camps, family therapy and it just seemed like nothing was working. When she turned 13 she was put on Zoloft. Then she was diagnosed with severe general anxiety and put on Ativan for when she was in serious crisis. I’ve always had issues disciplining her (eg taking away privileges) because she would threaten to harm herself and me and my husband would have to do a mad dash and hide anything sharp in the house. Her most recent diagnosis in Borderline Personality Disorder. She’s extremely manipulative and preys on the fact that I have 3 other children who has ASD (they’re 6,5, and 2) and I myself have issues with anxiety to get her way. She’s threaten to harm herself or she will harm herself. And when that happens I have so much guilt that I just give in. It causes a lot of issues between me and my husband, we’ve talked about separating several times because of it. they have 0 relationship anymore because of how disrespectful she is to both of us. She’s my kid though and I love her and I don’t want her to be hurting. I just don’t know what to do anymore, I feel like I have nobody to talk to. My parents tell me she needs to be handled to kids gloves and my husband says the opposite. I don’t really have anybody else in my life to go to for advice or to vent. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/37rrkQk
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